It is very challenging to be both an Introvert and a person who likes to get straight to the point. A disconnect sometimes exists between the intended message (frankly stating something as it was meant to be interpreted) and the interpretation of said message ("But wait, did you mean X?"). When this happens, chaos can ensue.
"The Cow in the Parking Lot" is an excellent book that I recommend for someone dealing with frankness and perceived insult. The authors point out that if we remove the element of perceived intent to harm or demean you (the reader), it is easier to navigate the muddy waters of communication with self-assured aplomb.
When I state something with positive intent but offense is taken nonetheless, my Introvert survival-mode kicks into gear. I backpedal in an attempt to wheel myself quickly out of the conversational quagmire, but not without taking a huge hit to my reserves of Social-Energy. I don't mind the occasional conflict, but I find huge misunderstandings to be particularly exhausting.
My advice is to second-guess the intent to offend when dealing with a dyed-in-the-wool Introvert. Giving offense only takes away from our precious reserves of Social-Energy. The likelihood is that your Introvert is not attempting to open a can of worms or whoop-a**. If you're honest about the offense early-on, your Introvert will catch on pretty quickly.
On that note, I'm about to go grocery shopping and then to the gym. Shields up, Mr. Sulu! Ha, ha.
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